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The Classic one! Parents buy Christmas gifts for you and put them in Santa’s boot and the next morning you assume they’re from Santa Claus… but 20 years later you realize the lie you believed for so many years in your childhood was just a lie!

Lying is to be avoided at all times in your relationship. You can say a lie in so many different ways, but the truth always comes out in just 1 way. Your partner will realize that, don’t assume that he or she is clueless about the lies that may escape from your mouth.

So guys and gals… don’t lie

Make sure you don’t step into the wrong door! It could cause you a lot of problems for you and your relationship.

Just a tip from a fellow fella!

Enjoy your day!

It’s not healthy to be stressed or cause stress in a relationship. People will most likely get tired of what you do or what you say if you do it in excess.

So have a healthy relationship!

If partners trust each other in a relationship, there is no guarantee that it will continue to stay that way. You can never trust enough, nor can you take it for granted. You have to constantly build on it.

What are the barriers to building trust in a relationship?

1. Desire to control

When one partner or the other seeks to control the relationship and wants to achieve the upper hand, it is very difficult to meet on equal ground and establish trust. If you are not happy in a relationship and constantly seek to change your partner and dictate terms, it is not an environment conducive to building trust. Your partner will withdraw and alienate himself/herself from you.

2. Dishonesty

If you are always trying to hide things from your partner, or lie by omission, or only tell him/her what you think he/she needs to hear, you are not just being dishonest with your partner but you are not being true to yourself either. Remember that if you’re doing something wrong that you can’t talk about to your partner, it’s not about hiding it from your partner but whether you can live with it. Whatever you do, have the courage of your convictions and there will never be the need to be dishonest.

3. Self-centeredness

When we focus only on our needs and ourselves, we tend to do things that don’t help the relationship and will probably cause a rift in it. If you have selfish motives, it erodes the trust that your partner has placed in you and causes a loss of faith. This in turn hampers the growth of the relationship and causes it to stagnate.

In order to build trust in a relationship we have to overcome these barriers and ensure they don’t act as stumbling blocks. In addition, it is important to work on those factors that enhance trust and cement it so that it acts as a cohesive force in a relationship.

4. Be open

It is vital in a relationship to be as open and honest as possible. Sometimes couples lie to each other on the pretext that the truth will hurt their partner. That is something they should think about when they are indulging in the dishonest act, not at the time of disclosure. If you think twice about what you’re doing and how it will hurt your partner, if you really care for him/her, you won’t do it. If you’re constantly hiding things and not being sincere, it stunts the relationship and inhibits trust.

5. Communication

Communication forms the core – an integral part of building trust and sustaining a relationship. Communication does not involve one person doing all the talking – that too only surface talk about fashion trends and gossip. Communicating effectively involves both partners contributing their fair share to the conversation and listening when the other talks. It involves laying your cards on the table and telling it like it is, talking about your deeper emotions and feelings. It means being straightforward about your needs and expectations.

6. Forgiveness

Building trust in a relationship also involves being able to forgive your partner for the hurt he may have caused you in the past. If you can’t do that and insist on clinging to petty problems or keep raking up old issues, the relationship will die a natural death. Or one or both of you is going to be extremely unhappy. If you decide to continue in a relationship despite the hurt your partner may have inflicted on you in the past and would like to work on rebuilding the trust, you have to be willing to wipe the slate clean and start over.

7. Empathize

When problems come up or difficult situations arise, as they are bound to, it is important to show concern for your partner’s feelings and be sensitive to their needs. Even if you didn’t agree with the course of action and he didn’t take your advice, support him in his time of despair. If you understand his deepest desires and identify with his interests, he is more inclined to trust you with his feelings. If you throw them back in his face, ridicule him or rub it in when he’s stumbled and fallen, he will not be inclined to trust you.

8. Maintain positive feelings

If your partner has never given you reason to doubt him, then don’t. What’s that line about someone not being guilty unless proven otherwise? If you’re always suspicious and doubting his motives, jealous and quick to jump to conclusions (often the wrong ones), it will be very difficult to build trust. Treat your partner just the way you would want to be treated – with love and respect.

Building trust in a relationship doesn’t come with a snap of the fingers. It takes hard work and commitment, but once you have it and work to keep it alive, you will reap the fruits of it.

Until that happiness was shattered, of course. But then it came back, and now you wonder what to do. That is the ultimate question. What is it about this man or woman that is pulling you back, like a powerful magnet, dragging you… back to happiness… or is it just a mere reflection; an illusion, a dream that you wish would come true?

Steps to take are fragile; you may worsen the relationship or improve it. You may get him or her back. Choosing the correct steps is necessary if you want to feel loved again; if you want to love as much as you wish to be loved.

More to come folks.

Love at first sight can be a simple attraction you may have to the other person. It can also feel as a certain vibe or “gut feeling” that he or she really is the true love of your life. A simple look or flirt from someone is enough for some people to fall in love. This is not good, but is inevitable. Sometimes our emotions take over us blocking all thoughts… we feel so much for someone for such a short time only to find out they are either married, or taken, or are some kind of psycopaths… just kidding! (Well maybe it’s true!).

This is what it really is. Love at first sight is only short-term love. You don’t know much about that person: their real interests, their personality, problems they may have held in from the past (that will eventually come back to haunt them). You really don’t know a person until you’ve spent a couple of months with them, and even then it’s a short amount of time to know if you really “love” that person or not.

Falling in love can be such a beautiful experience, or a very bad one. That’s why you need to take your time to know someone before you jump in all crazy just because you need someone in your life. You need to understand that love at first sight, in my opinion, and with all the facts I’ve mentioned, does not exist. It does not exist because a feeling or emotion that you get from looking at or meeting someone for the first time, is not enough to know the entire truth about them. You need to use your head first (men, the one on top of your neck, mind you…) and filter out who you think is not worth the time. After doing this, you can have your own Romeo & Juliet novel to reflect on your love life, or should I say: the love of your life.

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Respecting your other half is the best thing you can do for a healthy relationship. You don’t want your partner to think that you are taking advantage of him or her; it’s the worst thing they can ever think of so you need to avoid it at all times. The only way to accomplish this is by being completely honest and sincere. There are different ways of approaching different types of conflict between the two of you. For example, there may be times when your partner states his/her opinion on a certain topic, and you don’t necessarily agree with it. A good way to approach it is to very nicely state YOUR opinion first and say that you are not 100% right as it is only an opinion—then you can come up with a joint solution or opinion where both of you would agree.

This also helps with communication in the relationship. You can have very nice and lengthy conversations with your other half, which means that both of you are coping and getting to know each other very well. No matter how long you’ve been in the relationship, respect and communication are two key traits that both of you have to possess in order to be in a healthy relationship.

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Starting to date can be a time-consuming process. You need to be able to devote time for your potential partner so that he or she does not move away from you. The first step to the process is figuring your time constraints, and availability. You also need to know what you are looking for. If all you are looking for is a sexual relationship, and your potential partner wants more of a romantic or long-term relationship then it’s simply not going to work. Take the opportunity to really get to know your date, especially their time availability. If he or she works when you are free, and vice-versa, there’s really no time for you guys to get to know each other. Be honest, lies only come back and haunt you. You can lie a thousand different ways, but the truth will always prevail.

So now that we have the confidence wrapped around your neck ready to tickle you until you cry if you don’t feel confident enough to talk to your crush, we can start working on other styles or just an overall new look. Dress as you fit to be dressed; don’t try to be someone you’re not. Just stop to think for a second what it is that makes you who YOU are, and use different clothes and looks to symbolize yourself. Try to stay up to date with styles, or make your own and be UNIQUE. Potential partners will really notice that uniqueness you radiate, and will possibly walk up to you and not vice-versa.